Hi there Reader,

I recently sat across from a client, Sandy. Sandy is 56 (you would NEVER guess her age) and she came to me 6 months ago after listening to a presentation I gave at the gym where she works out. She has been busting her rump in the gym for years and not seeing any progress. She is experiencing some peri-menopause symptoms and had a “little bit of weight” around her midsection that she didn’t like. She felt she was working too hard to still be “gaining weight”. I agreed 100%.

I want to ask you something and I want you to sit with it for a second before you answer.
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The body you've been chasing, you know the one in your head (maybe she is the 30 yr old you or the 40 yr old you), the one you've been working toward, what does the daily reality of maintaining it actually look like?

What do you have to eat?

What do you have to give up?

How much restriction, how much mental real estate, how many social events do you have to navigate with anxiety to stay there?​
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For a lot of women, the honest answer is: a lot. More than is sustainable. More than feels good. A version of life that involves constant calculation, performance, and quietly restricting your way through situations that should just be enjoyable.
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That's not a dream body.

Sandy came to me with a picture in her mind. Her 40 year old self. To try and get this body “back” she did multiple HIIT workouts a week (sometimes up to 4 a week), ate 1200 calories a day (yes, this was her daily calories), had zero hunger cues, and would binge all the junk food at night.

It wasn't until 4 months into reverse dieting that she realized that maybe, just maybe, this was the size of the body that her current self thrived in.

She was able to consistently fuel herself well everyday and do her workouts (I encouraged more weightlifting and less HIIT) AND feel good in her body. The scale didn’t necessarily go down but her clothes are fitting better, she is building muscle, she is sleeping through the night, and she feels so much better in her body.

These are her exact words, “It has been a great journey learning about what my body needs. I have a way better relationship with food now and have learned how to improve my intake by making changes. I never felt overwhelmed and the support I got from our sessions was always positive. The outcome has been wonderful and I feel so much better.”

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I'm not here to tell you not to have goals. Wanting to feel strong, energized, look confident in the mirror and feel good in your body is one of the most human things there is. I want that for myself and every woman I work with. But I want to challenge the specific destination that diet culture handed us, a destination defined by a number, a size, an aesthetic without ever asking us what it actually costs to live there.
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Here's what I've watched happen when women stop restricting and start fueling properly: something shifts. Yes, their body composition often changes. Yes, they feel better, sleep better, train better. But the thing they always talk about, the thing they didn't expect, is what happens in their head.
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They stop waking up and immediately assessing the situation in the mirror. They stop defining a good day by what they didn't eat. They stop spending the first ten minutes of every social meal calculating whether "it" fits. They start experiencing their body as something that carries them through their life, something capable and trustworthy, rather than something that constantly needs to be fixed.​
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That is a sustainable body. Not a specific weight. Not a before-and-after photo. A body you actually feel good inside that doesn't require you to be miserable to maintain it.
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The question worth asking isn't "how do I get to my dream body?" The question is: “what does it feel like to stop being at war with the one I already have?”
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Those are very different questions. And in my experience, the second one leads somewhere so much better.

Sandy didn't get her 40-year-old body back by working together 1-on-1. She got something better, a body she's not at war with.

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The 90 Day Foundation Blueprint is built entirely around this. Not a transformation toward a specific look, rather a transformation in how you relate to food and your body. The physical changes happen. But they happen alongside something that actually lasts.I

f you're rlike Sandy and eady to stop chasing and start building something real , he waitlist for the next cohort is open. → [click here.​

I can't wait to live a life well nourished with you!